Why Love Cannot Guarantee A Happy Relationship

Everyone thinks that for a dating relationship to stay healthy and to grow, love is an ingredient that must continue to exist in the relationship. They are saying, in other words that, as long as you still love each other, you will always stay together.

But that’s not true. Not love by the popular definition anyway.

Why Do We Need An Attitude of Gratitude

As the world celebrate Thanksgiving Day, let's unpack reasons why we need to embrace attitude of gratitude

Happy Thanksgiving to you!

Today is Thanksgiving day in the US. And it is an opportunity for all of us to express our gratitude to anyone that’s at all possible.

There are plenty of reasons to be grateful. In fact, there are too many reasons to be thankful for that we should not even have time to be grumpy and complaining.

I’d like to start this post by saying thank you to you! If you are reading this, then you are definitely one of the most amazing people on the planet that I have been so lucky to be connected to.

What’s Wrong With Christians Dating Non-Christian?

What did the Bible say about Interfaith Marriage?

Why Shouldn’t Christians Date Non-Christians?

What’s Wrong With Christians Dating Non-Christian?

A friend of mine sent me a link to a brilliant article written by Cheryl with the title “WHY CAN’T CHRISTIANS DATE NON-CHRISTIANS?

In the article, she elaborates on several reasons why a Christian shouldn’t be dating a non-Christian. She used what is perhaps the pivot of her main arguments, a very well-known Bible verse that has often been quoted in relation to this particular subject.

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

2 Corinthians 6:14

10 Commandments of Healthy Relationship

Do you struggle to keep a relationship?

Do you start a new relationship determined that it will be different from your last, only to find yourself three weeks later back where you started?

Did you keep upsetting that person you love again and again?

If you have experienced one or all the situations above, you are not alone. A lot of couples, young or old, often struggle to stay and enjoy an enduring relationship. These are written for couples with the hope of producing more beautiful and lasting love stories.

Why We Need to Build Bridges

We all need bridges.

A bridge, in  its simplest definition, is a span that allows us to get across to the other side. It allows us to get things across. A bridge connects two previously disconnected cities, or islands, or even nations. A bridge becomes a place of common ground between two completely separate place. It’s owned not by one part. It’s ownership is mutual. A bridge transcends difficult terrains, overcomes barriers, provides safety and peace of mind. I have described all the above as some properties of a physical bridge. We need physical bridges yet we also desperately need relational bridge.

Day 16 – 18 of the 21 Days Gratitude Challenge

What are you grateful for, everyday?

We are coming very near to the end of the Gratitude Challenge and it has been an exciting and fabulous journey together. For those of you who participated and followed me, I have enjoyed every moment of sharing the blessings that I received with you.

What I have grown to like and enjoy from this experience is how much it has helped me to actually think and ponder about how I went through my days. Did I live fully like it was the most important days of my life? Did I look at everything from the perspective that I have been blessed beyond what I deserve? Did I make use of every opportunity I have to be a blessing to every single person I met?

 

I have learned that only when I truly appreciate everything I have and enjoy every moment I could that I will be able to feel grateful all the time. [tweet_quote]The unparalleled consequence of being grateful is the constant desire to add value to others and bring the best out of others.[/tweet_quote] Why so? Having an attitude of gratitude allows you to feel content with what you have been given. [tweet_quote hashtags=”gratitude” ]A greedy person live in the ‘never enough’ zone, but a grateful person live in the ‘more than enough enough’ zone[/tweet_quote]. When you live as if everything you have is more than enough, you will inevitably want to give it away.

 

The key takeaway here is that it matters not whether you actually have ‘more than enough’ of what you have. It will happen eventually if you follow the right formula. A wonderful coach I deeply respect coined it first when he said [tweet_quote hashtags=”influence” ]”If you help others get what they want , they will help you get what you want –  Zig Ziglar”[/tweet_quote]

 

A conversation I had with a friend inspired me that one of the keys to being secure financially and attaining financial freedom is the ability to manage your money, and being able to carefully monitor your cashflow. I am grateful that I owe it to both my parents who have hammered the habits and the skills to me early in my life. I never fully grasped the significance the first time I had to do it, but now that I do, I am glad it has become wired in me.

On the weekend, I went hiking with a few friends to visit a place called “Air Terjun Dua Warna” (translated Dual Color Waterfalls) It was one of the most tiring exercise I have ever had yet it was also the most rewarding experience. I have posted a few photos to let you see for yourselves how indescribable the views are as you go up-close and personal with the waterfall. I am grateful that I get to spend a truly rewarding and memorable moments with friends who are both fun-loving yet supportive at the same time.

 

For the past few days I haven’t been able to get decent access to internet as there have been problems with my connection. Two thoughts that came to mind was that I am grateful to be able to spend the precious time that I used to spent online to actually go offline and enjoy my quiet time to collect my thoughts and review my day. The other thought that struck me, reminded me of the significance of being able to connect with people around us. The world is a huge place and we all meet people everyday. Yet there are those people who felt lonely even though there are people all around them. Gadgets and smartphones have, in many positive ways, transformed our lives. Unfortunately, they have also impacted our lives in equally as many negative ways too. One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that I needed to disconnect, to actually connect, as emulated in the video below by this Thai advertisement. Let us learn to be grateful for the people we met and appreciate their presence instead of valuing our “relationship” with our smartphones more.

 

 

Please share your journey of Gratitude Challenge in the comments. Looking forward to the many exciting experience. For the final day of the Gratitude Challenge. I will do a special post highlighting those people who have been involved in the challenge. If you would like to be included, please do let me know in the comments!