How much value do you put in your words?
Did you ever, figuratively speaking, shoot yourself in the foot?
Have you ever listened to the words you tell yourself?
If you could travel back in time to meet your old self, how would you tell him to change his words?
I first learned the hidden power of words many years ago from a preacher who visited my church. Since then, I have been carefully listening to the words that I have said and learning to restraint myself from saying words to others that I don’t wish to regret later.
“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” —Napoleon Hill
My attempt at saying the right words, at the right time, was moderately successful. I stopped using profanity around others, and I tried to be very soft-spoken and well-mannered in my speech.
Although I still said things that I shouldn’t have said and have often ended up “putting my foot in my mouth”, I was quite proud of my achievement.
I am still quite unhappy that I wasn’t able to completely change my words and I tried even harder. The results, were far from satisfactory.
When I think about it further, I began to realise one fundamental issue that I have neglected to work on. I did not realise that
Unless I learn to change the words that I say to myself, and unless I learn to take the flip side of what I said about myself, I will never be able to change completely.
Allow me to rephrase that, as I believe this is a fundamental principle that we all need to learn.
Believe it or not, we tend to believe in our own lies much readily than we thought. That can be a terrible curse to ourselves, yet it may be our best blessing too.
I say it as a curse because we could very well be cursing ourselves and telling ourselves all sorts of lies about our own weaknesses, disabilities, lackings, incompetencies and our bad health.
I heard someone told a joke that if you organise a conspiracy in the office to target someone and get everyone to play a prank on one colleague by saying negative things about his health, like how pale he looked, or something bad about his complexion, he will end up really sick at the end of the day! I’m not sure of its authenticity but I sure don’t want to be the receiving end of that prank!
Your brains can readily process the words you say to yourself out of your consciousness. It then sends the relevant signals to your physical body. This means that the more you tell yourself about your own weak physical condition and your ailing health, the more your body responds accordingly.
The good news is that, the reverse applies just as well. Tell yourselves about being healthy, being fit and being disease-free and your body will respond accordingly.
This is the same principle that King Solomon, the wisest man who has ever lived, has taught in his writings. “Pleasant words are as honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body.” (Proverbs 16:24, AMP)
That’s why I strongly encourage you today, for your own sake, be kind to yourself and stop telling yourself all kinds of stupid lies about how you are no good and will amount to nothing.
I may be exaggerating here, but even if you listen to one thousand preachers, motivators, or coaches, and you still tell yourself you’re no good and a failed product, you negate all the positive energy that’s been building up inside you.
You may say that although you can change what you say to yourself, you are unable to change what others said to you and about you. I agree, but regardless of what people say about you, the words won’t have an effect if we refuse to believe in their words.
I wholeheartedly believe that once you change how you look at yourselves, you will change how you look at others. Equally the same, once you change what you say to yourself, you will change what you say to others.
Can you commit today, that you will consistently be more kind, more patient, more graceful and give more praise to yourself?